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Love,
Jackie
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Jacklyn Lick
About Ready To Give Some Pertinent Advice
About Me
- JacklynLick
- You can look me up, but, I have been an actress since 1992. I have worked on Cinemax, 8 MM with Nicolas Cage, The Man Show, Adult Films, and everything in between. There isn't much I haven't done, but, with that, comes alot of life experience. Now I've gone from city girl to country girl, and there is a HUGE learning curve!
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An Inquiry If Ya Do Not Mind
Hmmm I was just thinkin about nothing in particularly and was wondering if I might ask you a question about a sweet and romantic dating situation and or scenario. First of all the situation is like this. The deal is that there are two different guys that like you and find you sensuously attractive. And are in the process of working it up to ask you out on a date. One gentleman is, let us say... hard. He works out and keeps a steady routine about it. And has good muscle tone and build. And the other one is not so athletic. Let us say maybe ten to fifteen pounds over weight. But has a sunny disposition and a decently handsome face. And between the two the athlete makes a decent size bank and the other not so much. But is well enough off to keep the bills payed. But still is able to have a bit of cash on the side to play with. Ok now here it be. The athletic man asks you out and you accept. As well as the other man asks you too and you accept his invitation as well. Dates and times are separate so as not to conflict with scheduling and spreading yourself too thin so as to cause a volatile situation. Ok now on the one hand the harder of the two wants to take you out and go to an extravagant and exquisite dinner in a plush high class restaurant. He picks you up in a limo and has the driver honk. And he does not even get out of the car to open the door for you, he has the driver do it. and from there takes you on a drive to a luxurious hotel with wine or what have you and some club dancing, along with a mellow after party of taking you to a night spa and getting you all massaged and beautified doing your hair, doin your nails. And all things along those lines. Hmm ok now the second date is like this... The gentleman arrives at your place. He gets out and walks up to the door and rings the bell and has a small bouquet of day lilies for you and a small box with an anklet of sorts or some nice piece of non too expensive jewelry. He greets you and takes you by the hand and kisses the back of it. And claims it is a pleasure to meet you. And the kicker to this one is he asks you up front, what would "you" like to for the evening? And I will do my up most best to feed and happily make sure that every desire and wish you have for tonite comes true. And he exclaims that he would love the honor in getting to know you in this way as just being with you and doing what you would want to do for an evening out would make him the happiest man on earth. Even though his original plan for the night was bringing some unique food to your place and cooking an exquisite meal with a sexy sweet desert for after dinner. And staying in and watching some movies of romance and love stories. And after the movies, lighting some candles and drinking some glasses of wine or what have you and simply talking and getting along and getting to know each other. And with the other man all he wanted to do was shower you and lavish you with expensive dinners and some pampering. And the latter of the two men was into you and making the night all about you. More so than the other man. Now the question is, between the two.
Which one would you choose to go further with?
Ok,
First off, it would have more to do with chemistry than it would about what they wanted to do for me.
Personally, I would be more into a guy that just sincerely wanted to get to know me, rather than put on a big dog and pony show. If we had alot in common, then, I would go further with him.
On the other hand, if he's got great abs, and a fairly decent attitude, but, NOTHING else in common............ being that I'm a more sexually permiscuous type of person, I would simply have sex with him and not go out on a second date with him....... :) hehehe. (HEY! DON'T SCOFF ! IT'S BEEN DONE TO ME BEFORE!!!) LOL!
However, for someone with a more long term type of a situation, it would be the guy that just wants to know me, that I had alot of things in common with, specifically mind. Because more important than sex (which is a small part of a relationship) is being around someone, and being able to communicate with them.
I hope that sufficiently answers your question.
Love,
Jackie
The second guy sounds like me! Kind of the perspective from my life because I am the second guy is to tell a little about someone I have been seeing. The reason why we are involved is not as much because of the physical although she does tell me that I am quite attractive even I admit I don’t have the movie star looks. She is more attracted to the fact that I can make her laugh until she is crying, can carry on an intelligent conversation with her on mutual interests, that I love spending time with her getting to know her, we both share a love of chess, etc. It is interesting when friends of mine meet Wendy because the one word that most of the guys use to describe her is gorgeous! That or HOT! They joke with me I am dating someone who is way out of my league, but I just think they are nuts. Nobody is out of my league! Nobody is better than me and I am not any better than them. She loves that attitude and that I am always positive about things. She really is beautiful but she is most attractive because she has many of the same qualities that she likes in me, as well as the fact that she is down to earth, is caring about people, and likes to see do their best and enjoy life! It is funny because she is the first to admit that when she was young(18-22) she would have never given a second glance at the second guy in the scenario and would be off with the first, but now that she is 35(36 in August) the flash is not important to her. As she puts it she is more impressed that I want to be with her and get to know her and in general us to just have fun as opposed having her with me like I am showing her off like a trophy. She would be more interested in the second person because it sounds like he is interested in her as opposed to the first guy who seems more interested in trying to impress her.
BTW, in the counterpart scenario with my being asked out by two women as you described. I would pick the second woman for the same reason.
There does need to be a physical attraction but how a person acts is so much more important!
And sadly(to underscore that I was pretty shallow at times in my life) When I was about 20 my comment about meeting a woman was is she HOT? Does she have big....eyes!? LOL! And...will I get lucky pretty easy? Yep, I was a guy.
I do like to think that I did grow up and am a much more mature and better person than I was when I was 18 or so. ;) :D
Yes, there comes a point in your life where you realize that looks aren't everything. Let's face it, with most guys (not all), the sex doesn't last that long. What are you going to do with each other the other 23 hours and 45 minutes of the day? hehehehe!
But, seriously, I just have to be able to have a conversation with a man. Of course I like good looking men, but, I would rather go out with the one that is going to make me laugh my a** off!!
Love,
Jackie
There are guys who can have sex for a whole 15 minutes?? I am envious, that is 13 more than me!!
Seriously though, I do agree about the conversation and the humor. Sex to me is important, but it is only one detail of a relationship. An attraction has to be there, but it isn't the main thing. Plus as I get older it seems that all the women I see are beautiful. Funny but I tend to attract more women now than I ever did when I was younger. I think they are like me, far different priorities than when 20 or so. Plus I was goofy looking when I was younger! LOL. I will have to send you a picture I have. Recently I had lunch with a guy I hung out with in high school and he had a scrapbook of a bunch of us. He sent me one of me when I was 18. Boy I sure looked different. I actually had hair!! :)
i think you are very,very, sweet and sexy.
Which one of us funnyguy? Me, or Kenneth? hehehehe!
Thank you!
All my love!
Jackie
FYI:
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Kinky (Bondage, BDSM & fetish) community.
Similar to Facebook and mySpace but run
by kinksters
FetLife
http://fetlife.com/
I checked the above out for a few days
and then had my profile deleted. I am just
to vanilla for their action. On the bright
side, you can search other profiles by zip
code and network with people in your area.
And yes, a name like "Kinster" does not seem
to juive well with the Fetish Culture when you
are as Vanilla as I am. I just thought it was
a decent handle to use while I "check it out and
take it for a test ride". (If ya know what I mean:).
Well, so far as Myspace goes..... I had used another
handle at Fetlife that I am not giving up.
And for the record;
Even though I am the nicest person that I know,
that is not to say that I am a nice person. The
fact is that I have to work very hard at being nice.
And at least I do not seem to scare so many people as
often as I used to. Regardless, I find it much easier
to just go out and meet people at public events, than
the Internet. Just going out with a few friends or alone
(and no date) leaves me open for meeting new people, in
real life. So why take a date along and srew up such
great opportunities ?
For instance, this Wednesday is the
Santa Rosa Downtown Market (California)
http://www.srdowntownmarket.com
And this weekend is the 31st annual
Harmony Fair June 12 -14, 2009
http://harmonyfestival.com/
Weekend camping is like a twist between
a Rainbow Gathering
http://www.welcomehome.org/
and
Burning Man
http://www.burningman.com/
In fact, many of the same
people go to all three events.
Last year, I was standing in front of the
main stage when one girl stated dancing with
her butt in my crotch and another was behind]
me with her breasts pressed against my back
while she was dancing. And I have to say,
that is a great way to "meat" woman :)
What more need I say ....
"Step away from the machine
and get back out there into life" ?
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